The Devilish Romantic
- Nikita
- Mar 31
- 7 min read
The Devilish Romantic Animus Projection - Origin, Kinks & Integration
Formation of the Projection during Early Childhood
The Devilish Romantic animus projection often develops in childhood due to a charged, emotionally complex relationship with the father. This is projection is often formed when woman had rather intense, even flirtatious relationships with the father. Such fathers often find their wives boring, and the young daughter more charmful and playful. his is not necessarily about inappropriate behavior but rather subtle psychological dynamics that shape the way a girl perceives love, power, and intimacy.
Stage 1: The Charismatic, Distant, or Flirtatious Father
A girl’s first understanding of masculinity comes from her relationship with her father. If her father has certain key traits, they become the foundation for her later romantic projections:
1. The Father Who is Emotionally Distant Yet Magnetic
He is admired, charming, or successful, but remains emotionally detached from the family.
His attention feels rare and special—when he notices her, she feels like she has “won” his love.
He may be engrossed in work, hobbies, or affairs, making him appear mysterious and unattainable.
2. The Father Who is Flirtatious and Playful
He enjoys bantering, teasing, and playful interactions with his daughter.
He treats her differently than her mother, sometimes making comparisons (“You’re much more fun than your mom”).
She feels like she has a special bond with him, more engaging than what he shares with other women.
3. The Father Who Ignores or Criticizes the Mother
If he treats the mother as boring, incompetent, or unattractive, the daughter unconsciously absorbs this belief.
She learns that a woman must be exciting, charming, and seductive to hold a man’s attention.
She may believe that being a wife is a fate worse than being a mistress—leading to a preference for unattainable men later in life.
Stage 2: The Child's Psychological Adaptation
Because a young girl wants to maintain closeness with her father, she unconsciously molds herself to be appealing to him:
💋 She Learns to Associate Love with a Challenge
She admires men who are distant and feels excited when she can win their attention.
If her father was unpredictable, she develops a pattern of craving unavailable men.
💋 She Becomes Addicted to Validation
She seeks approval from older or powerful men, believing that if she is “special” enough, she will receive their love.
This creates a subtle but deep fear of being "ordinary" or overlooked in relationships.
💋 She Internalizes the Devilish Romantic Animus
- Instead of seeing love as mutual emotional support, she views it as a game of seduction and conquest.
- She may believe that a man’s love must be earned through mystery, allure, or drama.
Stage 3: The Adult Romantic Projection
Once grown, this girl unconsciously seeks men who replicate her childhood experience:
She is drawn to men who are charming, powerful, or emotionally unavailable.
She mistakes intensity for love—believing that suffering and longing are signs of deep connection.
She craves validation from men who seem “hard to get”—subconsciously trying to “win” their affection, just like she did with her father.
She unconsciously rejects stable, secure relationships as “boring” because they don’t match her early imprint of love.
Breaking the Cycle: Integration of the Animus
To move beyond this projection, she must recognize and reclaim the qualities she sought in men within herself:
💡 Developing Emotional Awareness
Realizing that love is not about conquest or validation, but about deep emotional connection.
💡 Owning Her Inner Power
Instead of looking for a powerful man to "rescue" her, she learns to embody confidence and self-assurance.
💡 Releasing the Need for Unattainable Men
Choosing emotionally present, loving partners instead of those who replicate her father’s distance.
EROTIC PSYCHOLOGY
For a woman who carries this "Devilish Romantic" animus projection, her sexual dynamics is deeply tied to psychological dynamics rather than just physical stimulation. What excites her most is not just the act itself, but the emotional intensity, power play, and the feeling of seduction and conquest.
